In a commercial bus one hot afternoon, a good looking woman was sitting beside me with her little son sitting on her laps. We exchanged pleasantries with a big smile on her face. She as well contributed intelligently to discussion that was raised in that bus that people were able to interact happily.
As the vehicle moved closely to where she will alight, she stopped the bus driver but because of the speed the driver was on, he couldn’t stop the bus at that instant. Suddenly, the once calm woman with a big smile on her face a while ago turned to an aggressive person in a twinkle of an eye, shouting at the driver, “Are you deaf? Don’t you understand the meaning of stop? Do you expect me to trek back to where I supposed to alight now?”
The bus driver was shocked at the way the woman was insulting him because of a slight mistake. He was exchanging words with her initially until it got to the point of paying the man the fare, the woman gave him lesser than the agreed fare. As the driver insisted on collecting the agreed fare, other passengers advised the bus driver to leave her, she is a troublesome woman, some of the passengers said.
I tried putting myself in this woman’s shoe, pondering in my mind if truly she really was troublesome? Did she fake the smile and her intelligent contributions to the conversation a while ago? I flashed back to the day I did something similar to what the woman did, I regretted every bit of my action that day.
Sincerely, she blew the whole situation out of proportion but at the same time, such attitude does not necessarily mean she is stubborn or being troublesome, It’s FRUSTRATION.
Many a time, we allow ugly situations we pass through get the better of us, and this often lead to collapse of relationship with good people we may just meet and give a wrong impression about us.
Majority of the people in the bus that day won’t understand that this woman acted that way because she was frustrated which led to transferring aggression to the driver.
There are lots of issues to get angry on, if we always do things according to how our emotions lead us. Let us always learn to be the presiding officer over our emotions at every moment because first impression they say, last forever.
You don’t have the idea of what you can lose if you allow your emotions to control you in a split second not to talk of a minute or longer. It could be contract, trust, friendship, help and even more that you can think of, avoid being controlled by your emotions.
Sometimes, it forces to proof itself over you. Try breathing in, take a very deep breath or deep breaths, be calm and let it go. You may feel bad for not responding at that particular moment, you will appreciate it for the rest of your life for not making a fool of yourself.
Always, take charge of your emotions.
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