house duties from that of the male’s? Let us check where we need to correct the mistakes of our parents and the society. Violence never started now, it has been the preference of one sex to the other and the family training differentiation between the two sexes.
As the rain was falling heavily, the usual things that always happen while it rains happened and I did the unusual involuntarily through what I can call superstitious belief. Reminiscing on what has made this action get registered in my brain, I realised that whenever there is lightening anytime it rains, my mum use to make a particular sound with her mouth.
Inquisitively, I asked her one day after I have taken note of this action severally why she normally does it. She replied that “After lightening thunder follows right? The belief is, to reduce the power of the sound of the thunder or it effects, you must make that sound with your folded lips. This belief got registered in my brain in a way that as grown as I am today, I do it involuntarily anytime it rains.
There are a lot of superstitious beliefs I had grown to believe but just one out of many I still do involuntarily today. I would have ended up believing all but thankfully I grabbed a book that enlightened me the more on superstitions. It’s on interpretation and the meaning of superstitious beliefs. The book told me the meaning of each superstition that I had grown to believe innocently.
As parents, aunts, sisters, family and friends, what we input into children’s head matters a lot especially when they get it from their parents. They stick to it even till death, if care is not taken. And the worst part is, this irrational beliefs arising from ignorance is being transferred to their children. That is how it goes from one generation to many generations believing it.
Most people are affected with this beliefs unknowingly today. The most popular one that is recently being talked about is the issue of “Female Genital mutilation. Although, it is linked to religion and traditional/Cultural reasons. But after I went on my own findings, I realised that it’s also superstition that has led to Female Genital Mutilation.
How can one believe that not cutting her daughter’s genital can lead to her being promiscuous? Where is that coming from? Did they carry out any research to discover this or is it medically proven? Who originated this belief? Those are the questions I kept asking myself. The answer i’m left with is, being promiscuous can be a thing of choice. It’s a decision you make its either been caused by psychological reasons or whichever to satisfy your sexual urge.
There are reasons that can lead to this like; Depression as in: Emotional or mental disorder, Victim of sexual assault, Low-self Esteem, Anxiety issues and the list goes on. How can psychological roots of a behaviour be related to cutting of the female genital? It’s after the research I concluded that this belief was originated from an individual’s idea that tried to scare parents in order to train their children from not being promiscuous. The only way to achieve this is to put the fear of cutting of female genital in their minds. Then it became what they made everybody believe ignorantly just like we are all fooled with other superstitions till date.
Do you know the century that this belief had been originated, that turned to something real difficult to stop today? Do you know that this condemned and false belief/practice was passed from one generation to another because of what parents in the past fed their children’s mind with? People aren’t ready to understand by researching and getting more knowledge about false beliefs they’ve grown up with.
Are you still deceived with a lot of superstitions that is turning to reality today? Ask questions, make your research, get the good understanding about whatever you are confused with, and don’t forget to comment your own experience with superstitions just as I have enlightened you with mine.
Michelle: Not now mum. Is it everyday you have to talk about this to me?
Mum: (jokingly). That’s the truth girl, your flat tummy won’t allow the dress I got for you look so smart on your body. You know, sometimes I found it so difficult to get clothes for you. You know why? Because it won’t just fit in. (Laughing)
Michelle: Tell me mum, what can I do to make this tummy look moderate like other girls out there so that my dress can fit in well? It sucks (sobbing).
Mum: Maybe when you start eating well, your tummy will start getting in shape.
Michelle: I have eaten to the constipation level, I can’t just deal with this anymore…..
I remember having this kind of conversation with my mum when I was little. Sometimes ago just like Michelle’s mum, mum used to joke about my body shape. She was concerned as a mother seeing her daughter looking starved. When a child is not looking chubby, Mothers always feel concerned like they are not doing their job of feeding the child well. I’m sure mothers can relate with this.
Her concern as a mother pointed out where Michelle concentrated on as dislike about her shape. There are lots of ways words spoken to us will make one
feel ugly no matter how beautiful you look. You know why, because we always allow Those words to make us and break us into pieces.
The problem did not start from the fact that Michelle’s mum spoke about her body, but how she took it. What we feed our minds determine our outlook and attitude to situations around us. It’s actually what she should have bragged about because it is what most ladies are spending money on today, but she decided to take it as what makes her ugly.
The reason why people spend so much money and attention on flat tummy today starts from someone who made good use of what they have pointed as bad and ugly to her. It is normal to hear a lot of comments from people, it can be in form of criticism either constructive or either ways. The power to listen, observe and turn the weakness to strength is the power you have, use it.
It is not always about being beautiful, it’s about making what you have look beautiful on you and you’ll see yourself looking more beautiful already. Always remember that the power to turn your weaknesses into your strength and make living beautiful for yourself is in your hands.
Nursery rhymes among other wonderful things call children’s attention closer to school. I love nursery rhymes so much too, I can still recite some even till date. There are two nursery rhymes that I can never forget cause it’s popularly sung all over the continents. No adult that has passed through childhood will find it difficult to relate with this.