As a pregnant woman is due for delivery, close relatives and people in her environment are thinking about the gender of her unborn child. The pressure placed on the woman by the people around her will make the poor woman pray for a male child all her life. Even though, her husband is not seeing things in that direction.
Our society has put more attention on male child than female child. If you haven’t given birth to a male child, you have not given birth, as if the pain during the labour is easy. As if the pains during labour of a male child is more tasking when compared to that of a female child.
Then to talk of when the woman eventually delivers her baby, one question is often asked as the news of the new born child is announced, What is the sex? Is it a boy or a girl? Almost everybody is guilty of asking this question. People even ask this question unconsciously because it has become a norm for congratulating the mother before thanking God for the safe delivery. What about how loud the shout of joy for a male child’s news is to that of female child’s.
Why is society placing too much pressure on a poor woman on what is not in her power to determine? Why making one sex feel lower to the other? What good does gender discrimination have on the society? Have we ever thought of the side effects to the society?
Despite the high level of education in our society today, this gender discrimination has not stopped at all. Women have no power to create and form the sex she wants her baby to be. Whatever sex she gives birth to is determined by men, so why the pressure on her? The effect that it has on the society today is yet to be linked together and it is called “Violence”. Just because whatever society breeds today is the outcome of training given by the parents to each person in the society.
The training that is given to children should be equal. House chores aren’t meant for female children alone, parents need to balance this among their children. There should not be female indoor chores and men outdoor work, don’t make your female children feel lower than their brothers. Let them see themselves as friends,supporters and team mates not as competitors and don’t create room for subordinate to superior relationship.
What we are getting today is different. Parents claim to train their male children to be strong by permitting them from doing house chores. They give them the mentality of “African Man” (Your woman is to do all house chores without you helping her. Your job is to provide for the family).
You train him to be a man and not a caring father, You train him to be a man not a caring husband. You train him to be a strong man by stopping him from crying and encouraging him to bottle his emotions. Forgetting that you are making him dead to his emotion, making him go about being bitter. The negative energy that he ought to let out, he held it to his body forming a strong man to people and himself.
The body can’t be separated from our emotions and that is why when the negative energy is being held in the body, it makes them to get easily frustrated, transferring aggression on his wife and children, even some attempting suicide. Is that how to be a strong man? Teach him to release the negative energy, cry it out in his closet of he has to.
Don’t cry for sympathy and for mockers to see. Cry to feel settled and calm so as to know the next step to take. When you hold it back, you’ll be dealing with the frustration instead of moving to the next level immediately you have cried it out.
It all starts from the irrational belief of people around us placing too much interest on male children. Then the special training and treatment being given to the male children in the family to be more stronger than his sisters. The outcome is violence against women by their husbands, violence against children by their fathers.
Where are you guilty? Are you the one that is waiting for “He’s a bouncing baby boy news”? Are you one of the parents that differentiate the female’s
house duties from that of the male’s? Let us check where we need to correct the mistakes of our parents and the society. Violence never started now, it has been the preference of one sex to the other and the family training differentiation between the two sexes.