What If…….

I entered a class to test the students’ ability on their previous lesson, as I asked questions I noticed Mike was putting in his best to answer my questions. Even when I did not call him, he stands up to try though he may not be sure of the answer, he endeavours to say something.
Mike is a boy who has a high confidence and is determined to answer all questions without having any fear of been correct or incorrect. He has the “I Can” spirit, even when his classmates were making fun of the wrong answers he was giving to the questions, he never got discouraged.
On the other hand, John is a very brilliant boy with a cool spirit. As others were struggling to answer the questions they were asked, he kept quiet. Sometimes, it looked like he was trying to make a move to raise his hands but  later he would draw back. Immediately, I noticed his fear as he refused to raise his hands.
Having so much interest in his attitude, I asked the students another question and this time, the question dealt with reasoning and none of them was giving the right answer.
Noticing the attitude in poor John again, as he motioned to raise his hand and then change his mind  lacking the confidence to give his opinion, I called him and to everyone’s amazement, he got it solving the question in a very understandable and simpler way. I called him, asking him why he was so reluctant to raise his hand. He said, “What If They Laugh At Me If I Didn’t Give The Right Answer?”

Can you remember times when you have been making a move and because you have been feeding yourself with “What If” I failed lies you give up? This is one of the biggest lies that a timid mind feeds you with when you have the battle of the mind and you are confused on what decision to make.
This is the time to take your stand, face the battle and win. It is not the time to listen to “What If I Never Made It”, that is the thought of weaklings. Stand with the voice of “I CAN” from this moment, this is the voice of  Champions. Be like Mike and not like John, if you were like John, it’s not too late to be Like Mike.

No more “WHAT IF”, it’s “I CAN”

 

 

VALIANT FOR THE TRUTH (KARMA SAGA)

 

Valiant For The Truth ( Karma Saga)……..
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          How easy it is to always believe what we see rather than what our heart tells us. Maybe if the teacher’s had listened to their heart, the real culprit would have been caught. They were fooled with what they saw in Jodie, as the trustworthy student they’ve always believed in, they took the wrong person as the thief. We need to see beyond what we see so as not to be deceived, just the way we need to listen more to our heart.
          After some months, Jodie’s truthful victim left the school because she could no longer bear the shame. The students made jest of her on daily basis and she reported to her mum, her mum decided to change her school. Now, Jodie was finally free from guilt; she walked freely without seeing her friend’s face that use to remind her of the sin she committed. The atmosphere was cleared without any feelings of guilt.
          Years later, Karma caught up on Jodie. When the one she trusted so much turned against her, all her hard work was snatched away from her through lies that was planned against her. She lost her job, her marriage, and her lovely siblings’ care and affections. She was going from one place to another to cover up her shame, She felt extremely lonely.
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          Life has it own way of turning the tables around and make it look like its really your evil deeds that caught up with you. Meanwhile, Whatever happened to Jodie could have happened even if she didn’t involve in such acts for life is not a bed of roses but because she has done an act that is similar to what was happening to her, it’s definitely karma. Another reason why one should stay away from doing something wrong against people, to be at peace with your present.
          What goes around surely comes around. This time around, Jodie’s mum was no more to give her support as mother, which made it more difficult for her to handle. Jodie’s siblings that were to fill in the gap of her mother were against her as well. This is the time she felt what her friend would have felt years back.
          It might be too long for karma to catch up on people for their evil deeds, but sooner or later, it eventually does. Like it is in the case of Jodie, her mum was no more to help her up now that karma has shown up. Though, her mum was the excuse for Jodie’s failure to be valiant for the truth then. Now, no peace of mind for her as she searched for her best friend for forgiveness, but she’s nowhere to be found.
          When in the act, Jodie enjoyed every part of it ’cause she felt cool about it. She never knew that it was just for a moment while the consequence is a lifetime scar.

Parents, stand for the truth and make sure the children learn how to stand strongly for the truth so that the children will not deviate from standing for the truth.

VALIANT FOR THE TRUTH

 Jodie was 8 years old when she was in primary four, she was a very lovable Girl in her school. Being a beautiful, bright and intelligent girl in school with the fact that she’s also a teacher’s daughter, everyone loves her. She smiles a lot and most of the students in school love to be her friend. I’ve not mentioned that if there’s any official errand in school, teachers and even the head teacher gladly send her because of the trust they have in her and since she’s intelligent.
          One faithful afternoon, she was sent to lead a group of student to a teacher’s house for a special purpose. The teacher handed over her house keys to her and was instructed to look over the group of students so as not to take anything in the house.
          She was doing her coordinating work until she walked to the sitting room and found a bowl of fried meat on the dinning table since the Dinning table is at the entrance of the sitting room. She pretended not to see the meat in the first instance, then, she moved closer. She was tempted to touch the meat and the touch led her to eating one.
           After all, nobody saw her, she cleaned her mouth and went back to her coordinating work. Her mind was very much in contact with the meat, so, she went back subsequently to eat the meat. It struck her at a point that what she was doing was stealing and that was when the meat has gone down almost to the half of the bowl. She felt like a thief and didn’t want to be called one since she has been everybody’s favourite in school.
            Quickly, she called one of the students to come and taste the meat. The student followed her to taste the meat not because she wanted to but because the offer came from the people’s favourite. Little did she know what Jodie was trying to do. She wanted an accomplice so as to turn the crime on the accomplice head and she will be free from the disgrace and punishment.
          Jodie thought in her mind that, the pieces of meat that have been eaten are more than what two people could have stolen. She decided to influence another person to take out of the meat but this time around, the student refused. After the work was done, everybody left and Jodie called the other two students. She told them to cover up for her whenever the issue of meat would be raised. The one that ate with Jodie agreed partially while the other one that refused disagreed, All this happened on Friday.
          During the weekend, Jodie was bold enough to tell it to her mum. Mum felt disappointed and started asking question like, don’t you eat meat in this house? Funny enough, Jodie ate meat that morning before leaving for school. It showed on mum’s face that she couldn’t face the disgrace if the whole school know about Jodie, a teacher’s daughter stealing meat. This answered Jodie’s question of if she could tell the truth to the teacher or not.
          On Monday morning, the teacher called Jodie the leader of the group and asked her about the bowl of meat. Jodie denied it and accused the two girls of stealing the meat. She was asked to call the two girls, she went but on their way coming she told them to cover up for her by accepting the accusation. The other girl told her that she has told her mum the truth about the matter and her mum will join them any moment from now.
          Hearing this, Jodie was restless and feeling heat from inside. But still stood her ground that she won’t tell the truth so as not to disgrace her mum. On getting to the teacher’s office, they met the girl’s mum there defending her daughter and telling the truth that her daughter has told her earlier. As soon as Jodie stepped into the discussion, she said she knows nothing about the meat but she saw the other two girls eating the meat.
         Everybody believed Jodie even though the one that was telling the truth cried so hard for people to believe her. Her mum shouted so high to make people believe her daughter, but the teachers believed Jodie because she has been going for errands and never did something like that before. What a Valour of truth Jodie would have been, but her mum never gave her the courage.
          Even in a world that always try to make us what we are not, in the world that it’s influence is so hard on us and we struggle to be ourselves. Never forget to remain valiant for the truth. The world Is round which makes it a circle, life is whatever goes around comes around ( two semicircle that form a circle). Stand for the truth no matter what the consequence looks like. Next post will be talking about the consequence of Jodie’s behaviour (story based on true life story).
Till then, remain valiant for the truth.

After The Storm…….

An Elephant and a dog became pregnant at same time. Three month done the line, the dog gave birth to six puppies. Six month later the dog was pregnant again, and 9month later it gave birth to another dozen puppies. Six month later the dog was pregnant again, and 9month later it gave birth to another dozen puppies.

The pattern continued. On the eighteenth month, the dog approached the elephant questioning, “Are you sure that you are pregnant”? We became pregnant on the same date, I have given birth 3times to a dozen puppies and they are now grown to become big dogs, yet you are still pregnant. What’s going on?

The elephant replied, “There’s something I want you to understand, what I am carrying is not a puppy but an elephant. I only give birth to 1 in 2years. When my baby hits the ground, the earth feels it. When my baby crosses the road, the human being stop and watch in admiration, what I carry draws attention. So what i’m carrying is mighty and great.

With this story, I want to encourage you that you shouldn’t lose faith when you see others receiving answers to their prayers. Don’t be envious of others testimony. If you haven’t received your own blessings, don’t despair. Say to yourself “my time is coming, and when it hits the surface of the earth, people shall yield in admiration.

Life can be difficult sometimes, especially when one is passing through the dark period. To see the light at the end of the tunnel seems so impossible and sometimes the whole situation will be so cloudy that it’s as if the connection with the greatest one above is not felt.

Yet, don’t lose hope because after rain there is a rainbow, after every storm there is calm, after the night there is a morning , and after an ending, there is a new beginning. Your miracle is on its way and it will shake the surface of the earth.

I’ve been encouraged with this letter I am sending to you right now and i’m encouraging you with it as well. I believe you are encouraged with it. Have a blessed moment and a despair free week.

Gender Discrimination

     As a pregnant woman is due for delivery, close relatives and people in her environment are thinking about the gender of her unborn child. The pressure placed on the woman by the people around her will make the poor woman pray for a male child all her life. Even though, her husband is not seeing things in that direction.
           Our society has put more attention on male child than female child. If you haven’t given birth to a male child, you have not given birth, as if the pain during the labour is easy. As if the pains during labour of a male child is more tasking when compared to that of a female child.
          Then to talk of when the woman eventually delivers her baby, one question is often asked as the news of the new born child is announced, What is the sex? Is it a boy or a girl? Almost everybody is guilty of asking this question. People even ask this question unconsciously because it has become a norm for congratulating the mother before thanking God for the safe delivery. What about how loud the shout of joy for a male child’s news is to that of female child’s.
          Why is society placing too much pressure on a poor woman on what is not in her power to determine? Why making one sex feel lower to the other? What good does gender discrimination have on the society? Have we ever thought of the side effects to the society?
          Despite the high level of education in our society today, this gender discrimination has not stopped at all. Women have no power to create and form the sex she wants her baby to be. Whatever sex she gives birth to is determined by men, so why the pressure on her? The effect that it has on the society today is yet to be linked together and it is called “Violence”. Just because whatever society breeds today is the outcome of training given by the parents to each person in the society.
          The training that is given to children should be equal. House chores aren’t meant for female children alone, parents need to balance this among their children. There should not be female indoor chores and men outdoor work, don’t make your female children feel lower than their brothers. Let them see themselves as friends,supporters and team mates not as competitors and don’t create room for subordinate to superior relationship.
          What we are getting today is different. Parents claim to train their male children to be  strong by permitting them from doing house chores. They give them the mentality of “African Man” (Your woman is to do all house chores without you helping her. Your job is to provide for the family).
          You train him to be a man and not a caring father, You train him to be a man not a caring husband. You train him to be a strong man by stopping him from crying and encouraging him to bottle his emotions. Forgetting that you are making him dead to his emotion, making him go about being bitter. The negative energy that he ought to let out, he held it to his body forming a strong man to people and himself.
          The body can’t be separated from our emotions and that is why when the negative energy is being held in the body, it makes them to get easily frustrated, transferring aggression on his wife and children, even some attempting suicide. Is that how to be a strong man? Teach him to release the negative energy, cry it out in his closet of he has to.
          Don’t cry for sympathy and for mockers to see. Cry to feel settled and calm so as to know the next step to take. When you hold it back, you’ll be dealing with the frustration instead of moving to the next level immediately you have cried it out.
          It all starts from the irrational belief of people around us placing too much interest on male children. Then the special training and treatment being given to the male children in the family to be more stronger than his sisters. The outcome is violence against women by their husbands, violence against children by their fathers.
          Where are you guilty? Are you the one that is waiting for “He’s a bouncing baby boy news”? Are you one of the parents that differentiate the female’s

house duties from that of the male’s? Let us check where we need to correct the mistakes of our parents and the society. Violence never started now, it has been the preference of one sex to the other and the family training differentiation between the two sexes.

When Emotion takes charge…

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       In a commercial bus one hot afternoon, a good looking woman was sitting beside me with her little son sitting on her laps. We exchanged pleasantries with a big smile on her face. She as well contributed intelligently to discussion that was raised in that bus that people were able to interact happily.
As the vehicle moved closely to where she will alight, she stopped the bus driver but because of the speed the driver was on, he couldn’t stop the bus at that instant. Suddenly, the once calm woman with a big smile on her face a while ago turned to an aggressive person in a twinkle of an eye, shouting at the driver, “Are you deaf? Don’t you understand the meaning of stop? Do you expect me to trek back to where I supposed to alight now?”
 The bus driver was shocked at the way the woman was insulting him because of a slight mistake. He was exchanging words with her initially until it got to the point of paying the man the fare, the woman gave him lesser than the agreed fare. As the driver insisted on collecting the agreed fare, other passengers advised the bus driver to leave her, she is a troublesome woman, some of the passengers said.
I tried putting myself in this woman’s shoe, pondering in my mind if truly she really was troublesome? Did she fake the smile and her intelligent contributions to the conversation a while ago? I flashed back to the day I did something similar to what the woman did, I regretted every bit of my action that day.
Sincerely, she blew the whole situation out of proportion but at the same time, such attitude does not necessarily mean  she is stubborn or being troublesome, It’s FRUSTRATION.
Many a time,  we allow ugly situations we pass through get the better of us, and this often lead to collapse of relationship with good people we may just meet and give a wrong impression about us.
 Majority of the people in the bus that day won’t understand that this woman acted that way because she was frustrated  which led to transferring aggression to the driver.
There are lots of issues to get angry on,  if we always do things according to how our emotions lead us. Let us always learn to be the presiding officer over our emotions at every moment because first impression they say, last forever.
 You don’t have the idea of what you can lose if you allow your emotions to control you in a split second not to talk of a minute or longer. It could be contract, trust, friendship, help and even more that you can think of, avoid being controlled by your emotions.
Sometimes, it forces to proof itself over you. Try breathing in, take a very deep breath or deep breaths, be calm and let it go. You may feel bad for not responding at that particular moment, you will appreciate it for the rest of your life for not making a fool of yourself.
Always, take charge of your emotions.

My Superstitious Belief Experience

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As the rain was falling heavily, the usual things that always happen while it rains happened and I did the unusual involuntarily through what I can call superstitious belief. Reminiscing on what has made this action get registered in my brain, I realised that whenever there is lightening anytime it rains, my mum use to make a particular sound with her mouth.
Inquisitively, I asked her one day after I have taken note of this action severally why she normally does it. She replied that “After lightening thunder follows right? The belief is, to reduce the power of the sound of the thunder or it effects, you must make that sound with your folded lips. This belief got registered in my brain in a way that as grown as I am today, I do it involuntarily anytime it rains.

There are a lot of superstitious beliefs I had grown to believe but just one out of many I still do involuntarily today. I would have ended up believing all but thankfully I grabbed a book that enlightened me the more on superstitions. It’s on interpretation and the meaning of superstitious beliefs. The book told me the meaning of each superstition that  I  had grown to believe innocently.

As parents, aunts, sisters, family and friends, what we input into children’s head matters a lot especially when they get it from their parents. They stick to it even till death, if care is not taken. And the worst part is, this irrational beliefs arising from ignorance is being transferred to their children. That is how it goes from one generation to many generations believing it.

Most people are affected with this beliefs unknowingly today. The most popular one that is recently being talked about is the issue of “Female Genital mutilation. Although, it is linked to religion and traditional/Cultural reasons. But after I went on my own findings, I realised that it’s also superstition that has led to Female Genital Mutilation.

 

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How can one believe that not cutting her daughter’s genital can lead to her being promiscuous? Where is that coming from? Did they carry out any research to discover this or is it medically proven? Who originated this belief? Those are the questions I kept asking myself. The answer i’m left with is, being promiscuous can be a thing of choice. It’s a decision you make its either been caused by psychological reasons or whichever to satisfy your sexual urge.

There are reasons that can lead to this like; Depression as in: Emotional or mental disorder, Victim of sexual assault, Low-self Esteem, Anxiety issues and the list goes on. How can psychological roots of a behaviour be related to cutting of the female genital? It’s after the research I concluded that this belief was originated from an individual’s idea that tried to scare parents in order to train their children from not being promiscuous. The only way to achieve this is to put the fear of cutting of female genital in their minds. Then it became what they made everybody believe ignorantly just like we are all fooled with other superstitions till date.

 

Do you know the century that this belief had been originated, that turned to something real difficult to stop today? Do you know that this condemned and false belief/practice was passed from one generation to another because of what parents in the past fed their children’s mind with? People aren’t ready to understand by researching and getting more knowledge about false beliefs they’ve grown up with.

Are you still deceived with a lot of superstitions that is turning to reality today? Ask questions, make your research, get the good understanding about whatever you are confused with, and don’t forget to comment your own experience with superstitions just as I have enlightened you with mine.